Monthly Archives: January 2015

I Can’t Hear You. I Have A Tissue On My Head.


This post was originally written on March 7, 2009 Tonight I walked into the kitchen with a tissue stuck to my head. The kids were having smores (ahhh … life at your grandparents’ house!). They all started squawking and pointing, “Mom! You have something on your head!” Totally deadpan I said, “No I don’t.” The banter continued, however, I did not laugh or crack a smile. Just kept up the lie. Finally, I said, “How did you know?” The kids […]

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Sometimes You Have To Read Between The Lines


This post was originally written on April 30, 2009 My goal is to not feedĀ escalation with my healing kid. No rages since Friday … sort of. Yesterday they were amping up. Determined. Basically, if I walked in the room and dared to clear my throat, I would be welcomed with a, “WHAT?” “Honey, are you okay?” “You already KNOW!” Ya-da-ya-da-ya-da. Third verse, same as the first. And any other “Ground Hog Day”-ish analogies I can recall. So, they’re flopping and […]

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How I Stopped Yelling At My Kids


I come from a long line of professional yellers, stompers and door slammers. I had a PhD in verbal assaults. It was my gift. Yet, today, I do not yell. I do not yell at my husband or my kids. I would love to say it was the meds for depression and anxiety, but I cut it out even before then. Here is how I did it: STEP 1: Believe yelling is not okay. When you are screaming at someone, […]

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Jar-o-Good


Last night in the car one of the kids was talking about an idea they heard in their student group for the new year. Make a jar that you can place in a prominent-enough location that you won’t forget about it. Write down the good things that happen to you. Take a moment in the evenings to do it. On your bad days, you can randomly read about and be reminded of the good in your life. Simple. I love […]

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