Monthly Archives: January 2015

I Can’t Hear You. I Have A Tissue On My Head.


This post was originally written on March 7, 2009 Tonight I walked into the kitchen with a tissue stuck to my head. The kids were having smores (ahhh … life at your grandparents’ house!). They all started squawking and pointing, “Mom! You have something on your head!” Totally deadpan I said, “No I don’t.” The banter continued, however, I did not laugh or crack a smile. Just kept up the lie. Finally, I said, “How did you know?” The kids […]

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Sometimes You Have To Read Between The Lines


This post was originally written on April 30, 2009 My goal is to not feed¬†escalation with my healing kid. No rages since Friday … sort of. Yesterday they were amping up. Determined. Basically, if I walked in the room and dared to clear my throat, I would be welcomed with a, “WHAT?” “Honey, are you okay?” “You already KNOW!” Ya-da-ya-da-ya-da. Third verse, same as the first. And any other “Ground Hog Day”-ish analogies I can recall. So, they’re flopping and […]

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How I Stopped Yelling At My Kids


I come from a long line of professional yellers, stompers and door slammers. I had a PhD in verbal assaults. It was my gift. Yet, today, I do not yell. I do not yell at my husband or my kids. I would love to say it was the meds for depression and anxiety, but I cut it out even before then. Here is how I did it: STEP 1: Believe yelling is not okay. When you are screaming at someone, […]

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Jar-o-Good


Last night in the car one of the kids was talking about an idea they heard in their student group for the new year. Make a jar that you can place in a prominent-enough location that you won’t forget about it. Write down the good things that happen to you. Take a moment in the evenings to do it. On your bad days, you can randomly read about and be reminded of the good in your life. Simple. I love […]

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