Monthly Archives: July 2015

Toxic Ruptures


  “When parents have leftover or unresolved issues, they are especially at risk for entering into toxic ruptures with their children. Parents can become lost in the depths of a low-road state, and even if they recognize the toxic rupture, they will be unlikely to be able to repair it until they have centered themselves. The centering often requires that parent disconnect themselves from the interaction with their child.”   “If parents stay on the low road and continue to […]

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Thankful For The Hard Stuff


Originally written November 25, 2011 I am thankful for the hard stuff. I hate the hard stuff. I would never choose to relive most of it. I’m not doing cartwheels, and it certainly doesn’t make me smile. Yet, I’m thankful for it. I’m thankful for the person it has made me. I despised the process of getting to this point. Despised. It hurts and is always thick and messy. Parts of the hard stuff still make me livid. Much of […]

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Turn That Frown Upside Down


“It is very difficult to frown when looking at someone who smiles.” “The act of smiling, itself, actually makes us feel better. Rather than smiling being a result of feeling good.”

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You Never Forget Their First F-Bomb


Originally posted on November 2, 2011 So, I’m looking through the baby books. There is a spot for “first steps.” One for the first teeth and when the baby teeth fall out. Some even go so far as to document every birthday party through age 18. I can’t seem to find the right blank to document the first time a child throws the F-bomb at me. Maybe I’m looking at the wrong section. We have had just about every other […]

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